DAY 19: GRIEF vs. REGRET (oh what a difference!)

November 18, 2014 at 11:20 PM 2 comments

NO REGRETS yellow post-it

LESSONS LEARNED WHILE WAITING TO LIVE…

 

DON’T: 

Waste time regretting yesterday’s losses

DO: 

Embrace today so you won’t regret tomorrow

 

I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent an awful lot of time in my life obsessing over what DID happen that I wish DIDN’T…or what DIDN’T happen that I wish DID. Either way, it’s a vicious cycle.

Regret is an awful companion. It takes and takes, and never gives back. Obsession is even worse company. It blinds you to anything and everything but the one thing you don’t have. Put the two together, and they’ll eat your insides out and suck away every possibility of being present in the here and now, where life actually has a chance of happening.

Of course, grief and mourning are a necessary part of life when we experience a loss. At times grief can look strangely similar to regret, yet with one important difference: grief eventually takes you somewhere, while regret takes you nowhere but down, down, downHealthy grief helps us accept and adjust to a loss, eventually making room for new experiences and growth, while regret and obsession never give up their space in our hearts and minds – thus making new growth impossible.

A wise man once said, “If you don’t like your past, build a new one.”

 

HAPPY TRUTH: 

Living today well paves the way for a regret free tomorrow!

 

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Lora D  |  November 19, 2014 at 12:51 AM

    I appreciate this post–so very, very true! 🙂
    Thank you!!

    Liked by 1 person

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  • 2. Kimosphere  |  November 19, 2014 at 5:25 AM

    Thanks Lora…wishing you a well-lived today and a regret-free tomorrow!

    Like

    Reply

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Each new day offers a fresh opportunity to learn or languish, stagnate or grow. Like all sincere Christians, I face the ongoing challenge of finding THE GROWING EDGE.

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WORDS TO GROW BY

TEN WAYS TO LOVE

1. LISTEN without interrupting
(Proverbs 1:8)

2. SPEAK without accusing
(James 1:19)

3. GIVE without sparing
(Proverbs 21:26)

4. PRAY without ceasing
(Colossians 1:9)

5. ANSWER without arguing
(Proverbs 17:1)

6. SHARE without pretending
(Ephesians 4:15)

7. ENJOY without complaint
(Philippians 2:14)

8. TRUST without wavering
(I Corinthians 13:7)

9. FORGIVE without punishing
(Colossians 3:13)

10. PROMISE without forgetting
(Proverbs 13:12)

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