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DAY 25: RELEASING AND RECEIVING

BOOTS walking thru leaves

For many, today’s the big day…before the big day…before the BIG DAY…

Cuz Thanksgiving is Turkey day…

The day before is cooking day…

And the day before the day before…?

For some it’s food shopping day, loose ends day, or the last day of work before the holidays. For me it’s all those combined.

Yet I’m also dubbing today “releasing and receiving” day.

I recently talked with a close friend who’s going through a tough season. She described her experience of pouring her heart out to God with tears and gut-level honesty — and how it freed up space in her heart for peace, comfort, and encouragement.

I don’t know about you, but that sounds pretty good.

Because I often get so wrapped up in responsibilities and concerns and “just one more thing” moments that I forget the simple principle of releasing and receiving.

RELEASING my frustrations, disappointments, and struggles

RELEASING my idea of how things “should’ve gone”

RELEASING my white knuckles of perfectionism and control

And making room for…

RECEIVING God’s comfort, encouragement, and provision

RECEIVING reassurance that God DIDN’T drop the ball after all

RECEIVING a fresh flow of the Spirit for TODAY’s challenges…

And I realize that my tendency to hunker down and just “get through it” may be the very thing that’s making life tougher than it needs to be.

Yes there’s still a lot on my plate today…yet a brief releasing and receiving walk just moved to the top of my list!

How about you?

Hope to see you out there…

WOMAN walking on autumn path

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November 25, 2014 at 10:45 AM Leave a comment

DAY 24: GRATITUDE COUNTDOWN…

SAD GIRL IN LEAVES - thanksgiving colors (CROPPED)

Can I be really thankful…THIS year?

Just three days til Thanksgiving!

For some that’s happy news, while for others this Thanksgiving falls right in the middle of a challenging season.

  • Maybe you recently lost your job, experienced a painful break-up, or are battling serious health issues?
  • Or maybe you’re knee-deep in a season of disappointment that doesn’t fit neatly into polite Thanksgiving conversation?

If that’s how you feel this year, take heart – you’re not the only one.

In fact, I’m kind of in that boat myself…

Don’t worry, there’s no huge catastrophe going on in my life. Yet for a combo of reasons I’m just not feeling all that yippy-skippy about the holidays. Sometimes life just deals us challenging cards to play that don’t always fit neatly into our cheery “holiday calendar.” In those seasons, a day of mandatory gratitude can seem like like trying to lift a thousand pound weight up the side of a mountain.

Yet this year I’m starting to wonder…

Maybe starting our gratitude inventory EARLY could help us find some hidden treasures in the midst of our holiday blues?

I figure it’s worth a try. And I’m game if you are.

Here’s today’s gratitude countdown question…

What about your current situation is actually EASIER than your normal circumstances? 

EXAMPLE: Not near family this year  

WHAT’S EASIER: Don’t have to cook enough for an army – who knows, maybe you’ll go out?  

And what will you actually MISS when this season is over? 

EXAMPLE: Lost job / Out of work

WHAT YOU’LL MISS:  Don’t have to ask for time off for the holidays – and no grumpy boss on Monday!

(Okay, now it’s your turn…)

I look forward to hearing your answers…AND pondering mine!

KEEP CALM & GIVE THANKS (orange)

November 24, 2014 at 11:16 AM Leave a comment

DAY 19: GRIEF vs. REGRET (oh what a difference!)

NO REGRETS yellow post-it

LESSONS LEARNED WHILE WAITING TO LIVE…

 

DON’T: 

Waste time regretting yesterday’s losses

DO: 

Embrace today so you won’t regret tomorrow

 

I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent an awful lot of time in my life obsessing over what DID happen that I wish DIDN’T…or what DIDN’T happen that I wish DID. Either way, it’s a vicious cycle.

Regret is an awful companion. It takes and takes, and never gives back. Obsession is even worse company. It blinds you to anything and everything but the one thing you don’t have. Put the two together, and they’ll eat your insides out and suck away every possibility of being present in the here and now, where life actually has a chance of happening.

Of course, grief and mourning are a necessary part of life when we experience a loss. At times grief can look strangely similar to regret, yet with one important difference: grief eventually takes you somewhere, while regret takes you nowhere but down, down, downHealthy grief helps us accept and adjust to a loss, eventually making room for new experiences and growth, while regret and obsession never give up their space in our hearts and minds – thus making new growth impossible.

A wise man once said, “If you don’t like your past, build a new one.”

 

HAPPY TRUTH: 

Living today well paves the way for a regret free tomorrow!

 

November 18, 2014 at 11:20 PM 2 comments


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KIM ALDRICH

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Each new day offers a fresh opportunity to learn or languish, stagnate or grow. Like all sincere Christians, I face the ongoing challenge of finding THE GROWING EDGE.

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TEN WAYS TO LOVE

1. LISTEN without interrupting
(Proverbs 1:8)

2. SPEAK without accusing
(James 1:19)

3. GIVE without sparing
(Proverbs 21:26)

4. PRAY without ceasing
(Colossians 1:9)

5. ANSWER without arguing
(Proverbs 17:1)

6. SHARE without pretending
(Ephesians 4:15)

7. ENJOY without complaint
(Philippians 2:14)

8. TRUST without wavering
(I Corinthians 13:7)

9. FORGIVE without punishing
(Colossians 3:13)

10. PROMISE without forgetting
(Proverbs 13:12)

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